As a parent and a child psychologist I firmly believe in focusing on reinforcing positive behaviors … as opposed to punishing negative ones. This stems from my knowledge of what behaviorists have studied about human behavior … AND my first hand experience with kids. Positive reinforcement works … and also helps foster independence, life skills, and self-esteem. It focuses more on mutual respect than power-differentials. Punishing (such as time-outs and taking away privileges) works too and it is sometimes needed, but if positive behaviors are reinforced regularly there will be less of a need for the punishments … and in turn less power struggles.